H.B. London who is with Focus on the Family sends out a weekly e-mail to pastors. This week he shared something from book he had read that listed four things that could change your. The book is not a religious one, but nevertheless gave some good insights. I have printed it here for your perusal.

1. FORGIVE ME
The longer we let our list of personal offenses grow, the greater the bondage we find ourselves in. Sometimes, we pastors say and do things that hurt others. If you have offended someone, be courageous enough to ask them to forgive you. Who do you need to talk with? It might be a member of your own family. "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Eph. 4:32).
2. I FORGIVE YOU
There are those who live with a little black book of "wrongs" around their neck — especially in the ministry. I did for a long time. Though forgiveness is unnatural, it is essential. Some of you have held on to your hurts for so long, they have become a part of your personality. People see you as damaged. Why not let a colleague help you find healing?
3. THANK YOU
Have an attitude of gratitude. A long time ago, a wise pastor/mentor told me to look for ways to thank people. I found one of the best ways to do that is to write a note — not an email, but a mailed expression of thanks. People who do not thank others soon begin to take what people do for them for granted. Who do you need to send a note of thanks to today? Do it while you're thinking about it.
4. I LOVE YOU
Because I didn't grow up with people close to me saying, "I love you," it has been difficult for me to comfortably say those "three little words." I feel it and I want to, but I often struggle. I'm really trying to do better. I love deeply, but express poorly. I dislike that in me. How well do you do?
Four things everyone needs to say — probably every day. Hope you had a good week. Be blessed and be a blessing. —HBL